Islam has
allowed a man to marry more than one wife. This has been done for the purpose
of solving many social and domestic problems, which a family is confronted with
from time to time. Many are the times when the general welfare of both man and
woman depends upon the husband marrying another wife.
As Seyyid
Saeed Akhtar Rizvi, Chief Missionary of the Bilal Muslim Mission of Tanzania,
wrote in the Submission to the Commission on the Law of Marriage and Divorce
and Matrimonial Status of Women which was appointed by the Kenya government:
Polygamy: African society was, and to a
certain extent is, a polygamous society. Islam also permits polygamy. It has
allowed four wives at a time and has enjoined equality in treatment of all
wives.
It should
be remembered that polygamy is not a compulsory thing nor is it advocated. It
is just a permission with certain limitation and conditions. And in some of the
circumstances this permission proves extremely useful.
For
example: If the wife is chronically ill, or is barren, or for some other
reasons it is not desirable for the couple to live as husband and wife. The
remedy offered by certain societies is to divorce the wife and remarry. But is
this justice? Is it kind or noble to turn out a woman in her old or middle age
from her home, just because she remains sick or she happens to be barren? Islam
discourages such cruelty by permitting polygamy. (Light, Vol. I, Nos, 11-12)
Unfortunately,
the West, and particularly the Christian church leaders, have used this
permission of polygamy for criticizing Islam. Their motive seems just to oppose
Islam, hoping thereby to hamper its progress, by degrading it in the eyes of
the world.
In their
propaganda against this permission, the critics present the following arguments:
- That marrying more than one wife is against the natural law;
- That this permission encourages lust and sensuality, which is detrimental to the family well being;
- That the system of polygamy has social disadvantages, injures the delicate feelings of women; causes deep frustrations and disappointments, giving rise to the feeling of hate and hatred which upsets the proper brought-up of children;
- That this law disturbs the family planning, as plurality of wives naturally increases the number of children; this in its turn causes economic problems.
Before
commenting on these objections, let us first examine whether it was Islam,
which originally promulgated the system of polygamy, or it existed since
pre-historic days. Also let us see whether it is found in other religions. Then
we should see on what grounds and with what conditions has Islam allowed a man
to marry more than one wife. Does it offer solutions to the social problems
facing many countries today?
Polygamy:
An Ancient Institution
S.V. Mir
Ahmad Ali writes:
"Polygamy
was prevalent among all the nations of antiquity, not excluding the Hindus and
Buddhists. The world in general and Arabia in particular before the ministry of
the Holy Prophet was lying deeply buried under gross licentiousness and
depravity. Which historic fact no educated one among us can ever contradict,
particularly about the private life of the rulers of the states. The great king
Dasarata, the father of Sri Rama, was polygamous. The Christian monarchs of
Europe could not help themselves against having wives more than one. Henry the
VIII of England had as many as eight wives. Even the great Apostles of God like
Abraham, Solomon and the others had wives more than one." (Translation of
the Holy Qur'an, footnote No. 499)
There is a
good deal of controversy as to whether polygamy is sanctioned by Hindu Law.
According to Manu the Law on the subject is as follows:
- "For the first marriage of twice-born men (wives) of equal caste are recommended, but for those who through desire proceed (to marry again) the following females, (chosen) according to the (direct) order (of the castes) are most approved." (Here follows the list of women who may be approved of) (Manu, iii 12).
- "It twice-born men wed women of their own and of other (lower castes) the seniority, honor, and habitation of those (wives) must be (settled) according to the order of the castes (Varna)." (Manu, ix 85).
- "If, after one damsel has been shown, another be given to the bridegroom, he may marry the both, for the same price that Manu ordained," (Manu, viii 204).
- "Among all (twice-born men) the wife of equal caste alone (not a wife of a different caste by any means), shall personally attend her husband and assist him in his daily sacred rites." (Manu, ix 86).
- "But he who foolishly causes that (duty) to be performed by another while his wife of equal caste is alive, is declared by the ancients (to be) as (despicable) as a Kandala (spring from the) Brahamana caste." (Manu, ix 87).
(S.V. Mir
Ahmad Ali, Ibid)
The above
quotations clearly indicate that Manu sanctioned polygamy, "and it is now
quite settled in the Courts of British India that a Hindu is absolutely without
restriction as to the number of his wives, anyone may marry again without his
wife's consent, or any justification, except his own wish." (Mayne, On
Hindu Law and Usage, p. 113) (Ibid)
Polygamy:
According to Jewish Law
In Exodus
(Chapter 21, Verse 10) it is stated:
"If
he takes him 'another wife', her food, her raiment, and her duty of marriage
shall be not diminish."
It is
evident to even a casual reader of Old Testament that not only is polygamy
permitted but also practiced, and that regulations for that have been
stipulated in the scriptures.
Polygamy:
According to Christianity
The
Christian writers say that "monogamy (i.e., marrying one wife only) is the
divine ideal. The Creator constituted as a union between one man and one woman
(Gen. 2:18-24 Matt. 19:5; 1 Car. 6:i6) He preserves the number of males
practically equal to the number of females." (The Westminster Dictionary
of Bible, 1944 edition)
We will
talk about this supposed equal numbers of males and females later on. Here I
would like to quote from the Bible where God addresses David in following
words:
"And
I gave thee (David) thy master's house, and thy master's 'wives' into thy
bosom, and gave thee the House of Israel and of Juda." (2 Sam. 12:8)
How is it
that God Himself gave him his 'master's wives' if His intention was to keep the
'one man with one woman' rule? Even in the seventh generation after Adam we
find that "Lamech took unto him two wives" (Gen. 4:19); Abraham had
three wives; Jacob had 2 wives besides concubines; Moses did not forbid it,
instead he brought Laws to regulate it, as has been mentioned in the previous
heading.
Christians
try to overcome these difficulties implying that the previous prophets had made
mistake in marrying more than one wife. But the insurmountable difficulty faces
them in case of Moses. Because Moses had brought a Law from God, and if it was
God's intention to make marriage 'an union between one man and one wife', why
did He give Moses regulations about polygamy? The above-mentioned Dictionary of
Bible tries to gloss over this difficulty by saying, "Moses, who was
correcting abuses, not suddenly abolishing them, did not forbid polygamy, but
discouraged it."
It is a
claim, which cannot be justified, because Moses himself married two wives: one
was Zipporah, daughter of Jethro (known in Islamic language as Shuaib), the
other was a Cushite woman whom Moses married in the 2nd year of the sojourn of
the Israelites in the wilderness. (Num. 12:1)
There is
no mention anywhere in the scriptures or any other writing that Zipporah was
not alive at that time.
So far
about Moses and the Prophets before him. Now we come to the prophets who came
after this 'supposed discouraging'. We find that polygamy continued to be
practiced even after the time of Moses, as by Gideon, Elkanah, Saul, Rehoboam
and countless others. For the details, see Judge. 8:30; I Sam. 1:2; II Sam.
12:8; 21:8.
Prophet
"David took him more concubines and wives out of Jerusalem." (11 Sam.
5:13). Prophet Solomon "had seven hundred wives, princess, and three
hundred concubines." (I Kings 11:3)
Now we
came to the period after the ministry of Jesus Christ, SV. Mir Ahmad Ali writes
in his translation of the Holy Qur'an:
It has
often been asserted that Christianity interdicted polygamy and made monogamy
obligatory on all. Nothing can be farther from the truth.
Ameer Ali,
speaking of the general prevalence of polygamy among all nations, remarks:
"And
so it was understood by the leaders of Christendom that there is no intrinsic
immorality or sinfulness in plurality of wives. One of the greatest fathers of
the Christian Church (St. Augustine) has declared that polygamy is not a crime
where it is a legal institution of a country, and the German reformers, even as
late as the sixteenth century, allowed and declared valid the taking of a
second or even a third wife, contemporaneously with the first, in default of
issue, or any other cause." (Ameer Ali, Life and Teachings, p. 220, and
also Ameer Ali, Mohammedan Law, Vol. II p. 23)
"When
Christianity made its appearance in Rome, history shows that polygamy was
recognized and the early Christian Emperors seem to have admitted its
validity." Says Ameer Ali:
The
Emperor Valentinian II, by an Edict, allowed all the subjects of the Empire, if
they pleased, to marry several wives; nor does it appear from the
ecclesiastical history of these times that the Bishops and the heads of the
Christian made any objection to this law. Far from it, all the succeeding
Emperors practiced polygamy, and the people generally were not remiss in
following their example. Even the clergy often had wives. This state of the
laws continued until the time of Justinian, who... resulted in their embodiment
in the celebrated laws of Justinian. 'But these laws owed little to
Christianity, at least directly.' The greatest adviser of Justinian was an
atheist and a pagan. Even prohibition of polygamy by Justinian failed to check
the tendency of the age. (Ameer Ali, Life and Teachings of Mohammad pp.
222-223) " (S.V. Mir Ahmad Ali, foot note 499)
It should
be mentioned here that Eastern Roman Emperor Justinian (527-565) was in the 6th
century of Christian era; it means that up to 6th century there was no
prohibition of polygamy in Christianity, at all.
The
following paragraphs from 'An Apology For Mohammad And Koran' (by John
Davenport) show clearly that the Christian Leaders up to at least 16th century
did not frown upon polygamy:
St.
Chrysostem, speaking of Abraham and Hagar, says, 'These things were not then
forbidden.' So St. Augustine observes that 'there was a blameless custom of one
man having many wives, which at that time might be done in a way of duty, which
now cannot be done but from licentiousness, because for the sake of multiplying
posterity, no law forbade a plurality of wives. (See Grotius, De Jure, vol. i.
p. 268 note)
Benefice,
Confessor of Lower Germany, having consulted Pope Gregory, in the year 726, in
order to know in what cases a husband might be allowed to have two wives,
Gregory replied, on the 22nd November of the same year, in these words - If a
wife be attacked by a malady which renders her unfit for conjugal intercourse,
the husband may marry another, but in that case he must allow his sick wife all
necessary support and assistance.
Even
writers professing Christianity have published many works in defense of
polygamy. Bernardo Ochinus, General of the Order of Capuchins, published, about
the middle of the sixteenth century, dialogues in favor of the practice, and
about the same time appeared a treatise on behalf of a plurality of wives; the
author, whose real name was Lysarus, having assumed the pseudo one of The
Ophilus Aleuthes.
Selden
proves, in his 'Uxor Hebraica', that polygamy was allowed not only among the
Jews, but also likewise among all other nations.
But the
most distinguished defender of polygamy was the celebrated John Milton, who, in
his 'Treatise on Christian Doctrine', after quoting various passages from the
Bible in defense of the practice, says, 'Moreover, God, in an allegorical
fiction (Ezekiel, xxiii) represents Himself as having espoused two wives,
Ahelah and Aholiah a mode of speaking which Jehovah would by no means have
employed, especially at such length even in a parable, nor, indeed, have taken
upon himself such a character at all, if the practice which it implied had been
intrinsically dishonorable or shameful.
On what
grounds, then, can a practice be considered as so dishonorable or shameful
which is prohibited to no one even under the Gospel; for that dispensation
annuls none of the merely civil regulations, which existed previously to its
introduction....
"Lastly,
I argue as follows, from Hebrews, xiii. v.4: Polygamy is either marriage,
fornication or adultery. The Apostle recognizes no fourth state. Reverence for
so many patriarchs who were polygamists will, I trust, deter every one from
considering it as fornication or adultery, for 'where mongers and adulterers
God will judge', whereas the patriarchs were the objects of his especial
favor, as he himself witnesses. If, then, polygamy be marriage properly so
called, it is also lawful and honorable: according to the same Apostle,
'marriage is honorable in all and the bed undefiled.'" (Apology For
Mohammed And Koran, pp. 157-59)
John
Milton has earlier written in the same book (Treatise On Christian Doctrine) as
follows:
"In
the definition, which I have given (i.e., of marriage) I have not said, in
compliance with the common opinion, 'of one man with one woman', lest I should
by implication charge the holy patriarchs and pillars of our faith, Abraham,
and the others who had more than one wife at the same time, with habitual
fornication and adultery, lest I should be forced to exclude from the sanctuary
of God as spurious the holy offspring which sprang from them, yea, the whole of
the sons of Israel, for whom the sanctuary itself was made. For it is said
(Deut. xxiii 2): A bastard shall not enter into the congregation of Jehovah,
even to his tenth generation. Either, therefore, polygamy is a true marriage or
all children born in that state are spurious; which would include the whole
race of Jacob, the twelve holy tribes chosen by God. But as such an assertion
would be absurd in the extreme, not to say impious, and as it is the height of
injustice, as well as an example of most dangerous tendency in religion; 'to
account as sin what is not such in reality', it appears true that, so far from
the question respecting the lawfulness of polygamy being trivial, it is of the
highest importance that it should be decided." (pp. 231-32)
Polygamy:
According to Islam
First of
all, it should be remembered that the Hindus, Babylonians, Persians, Athenians,
Jews and pre-Islamic Arabs recognized no limit to the number of wives a man
could marry. Islam limited and restricted it in number; and hedged it with
severe restrictions.
The
attitude of husband towards all his wives must be such as to give no occasion
to heartburning, jealousy, dissatisfaction, discontent and frustration to any
of them. There should be no cruelty, injustice, bias or partiality on the part
of the husband. It is expected and seen that complete peace, harmony and
tranquility prevails in the household where the husband faithfully observes the
injunctions of Islam regarding the equal status of all the wives in matters of
maintenance, and general treatment.
If the
husband cannot exercise this equality he is not allowed to marry more than one.
Regarding this restriction of number and equal treatment, the Qur'an ordains:
"Marry
such as you please, of other women, by twos, threes and fours; but if you
apprehend that you shall not be able to deal justly with them, then marry one
only." (Qur'an, 4:3)
To ensure
that fairness and justice, the husband must have sufficient economic means to
provide adequate food, clothing and other necessities of life to each of them;
each of the wives must be provided with a separate house of her own, where only
the husband has a right to enter without asking her permission first. The
husband must spend equal time in the house of every wife. He must divide his
nights among them, and must visit wives in the morning. This will give him a
chance to look after the welfare of all every day, and will maintain good
relationship with all of them.
The fact
is that the imposition of the above conditions has made polygamy very much restricted
among the Muslims; and one comes across very rare cases of polygamy in the
Muslim societies.
Polygamy:
A Natural Law
Now, we
should look at the arguments of the Christians against the system of polygamy.
Is polygamy really against the natural law?
The facts
and findings answer this question in negative.
"'Man',
says G.R. Scott, 'is essentially polygamous and the development of civilization
extends this innate polygamy.' "(History of prostitution, p. 21; as quoted
in 'Polygamy in Islam' published by Islami Mission, Lahore)
Dr.
Mercier says: "Woman is by nature monogamist; man has in him the element
of polygamist." (Conduct and its Disorders Biologically Considered, p.
292-3; as quoted in 'Polygamy In Islam')
Professor
Russel, an American scholar, said in a conference, held at the University of
California, convened to discuss the Family Rights:
"Marriage
to one wife and being tied down to only one wife for the whole span of life is
unnatural and unreasonable." Then, in the course of a long discussion, he
summarized his theory by sayings that "man aught to accept the law of more
than one wife as an important factor in the struggle for the survival."
(Ittilaat, Tehran, No. 3104).
While on
this topic, we should examine the claim that the Creator "preserves the
number of males practically equal to the number of females."
It is a
claim what cannot be justified in any way. There are a number of countries,
including Tanzania, where the population of women exceeds considerably that of
men. According to statistics published some time ago, in Soviet Russia, the
population of women is about 21 million more than that of the men.
And even
if we accept, just for the sake of argument, that the Creator creates equal
number of males and females, does it prove that there will be no need of
polygamy? Well, let us look at this matter in a reasoned way. The girls become
capable of re-production, and get the natural sexual feeling earlier than boys.
Islam has fixed the age of 9 years for a girl to be considered as an adult, while
the age limit for the boys is 14 or 15. It is because in temperate climate
girls are able to conceive at the age of 9 or 10; while in the same climate an
average boy becomes able to establish sexual intercourse at the age of about 14
or 15.
Now,
suppose a group of people settle together in a place, and suppose that every
year 50 boys and 50 girls are born in that community. Also suppose that none of
the children die in infancy. In 20 years, there will be 1,000 boys and 1,000
girls.
Out of
these 1,000 girls, 550 girls (who were born from the 1st. to the 11th year)
will have reached the age of puberty, i.e., will be from 10 to 20 years old.
And out of
the 1,000 boys only 300 will reach the age of puberty. These will be the ones
born from 1st year to the 6th year, who will be from 15 to 20 years old.
If that
community practices monogamy, the 300 boys can marry 300 girls. What will be
the fate of the remaining 250 girls? So, the supposed equality in number of
boys and girls is wrong not only according to the statistics, but in theory
also.
Also, one
more fact has to be borne in mind, before claiming this equality of the
numbers. All healthy women have to pass through a period, every month, when
their condition discourages establishment of sexual intercourse. But the man
does not lose his sexual urge at any time. What is the remedy if a man is
unable to resist his sexual urge at a time when his wife is having her
menstruation?
Either
polygamy, which has legal status, or going to the prostitutes, which is
forbidden in every religion.
Apart from
these Natural Causes, which refute the claim of the Christian priests, there
are some situations created by man which give lie to that claim. Take for
example 'war'. In Europe, during the Thirty-year war and in the last two World
wars, so many men were killed that there were not enough males to marry the
young girls and young widows. In West Germany alone, after the 2nd World War,
there were six million women who could not find a husband. A group of them
appealed to the government to promulgate a law allowing polygamy, so that they
may get husbands. They pleaded their case on the grounds that it will provide
them, economic and social security and satisfy their natural urge. The Church
opposed this move, and the helpless 6 million women were left to fend for
themselves by illicit sexual activities.
Bertrand
Russell says:
"And
in all countries where there is an excess of women, it is an obvious injustice
that those women who by arithmetical necessity must remain unmarried should be
wholly debarred from sexual experience." (Marriage and Morals, p. 47)
Does
Polygamy Encourage Sensuality?
The above
quotation has brought us to the next objection of the Christian-priests, that
polygamy encourages lust and sensuality. We have already shown by arithmetical
calculations and historical facts that the, system of monogamy has compelled
and is compelling millions and millions of unfortunate girls to live immoral
life, and these writers still have the cheek to tell us that polygamy (which is
the only cure to this malady) leads to sensuality!
The
following paragraphs, taken from 'Polygamy in Islam', give us a fair picture of
Western monogamy:
"Islam
allows its followers legal marriage in addition to the first one and, having
allowed fullest possible legitimate outlet to the sex impulse, it prescribes
very severe and deterrent punishment for adultery, because adultery destroys
peace, harmony, tranquility prevailing in homes, throws doubt on the fatherhood
of children and legitimacy of inheritance, and ultimately results in broken
homes, ruined families and dissolutions of marriages.
In Europe
and America, it is just the other way about, and they have solved the problem
of sexual outlet in a peculiar way. They have allowed women full and free
inter-mixing with strangers of opposite sex in name of so-called emancipation
of women, and this has resulted in over-increasing cases of fornication and
adultery. Bertrand Russell says, 'With the growth of women's freedom there has
come a much greater opportunity for conjugal infidelity than existed in former
times. The opportunity gives rise to the thought; the thought gives rise to the
desire and in the absence of religious scruples, the desire gives rise to the
act.' (Marriage and Morals, by Bertrand Russell, page 72)
The result
is that the men and women born during the present century in the so-called
civilized Europe and America do not believe that fornication and extra-marital
relations as such are a sin. There is neither internal nor external control in
matters of sex. Conjugal fidelity is not expected now-a-days. The sexual
revolution is in full swing.
"Of
course, polygamy is considered an infringement of the rights of women, but
practically these monogamists go on practicing surreptitious, clandestine and
underhand polygamy by defiling secretly the wives, daughters and sisters of
other people. Polygamy is considered an evil but left-handed wives are kept
without any scruples. No eyebrows are lifted on sexual promiscuity. Enticement
is provided by seminude dresses, freedom of intermixing with strangers of
opposite sex, posters showing nude women, sex symbols, sex-insinuating material
and obscenity in cinemas where physical contours move in synchronization with
seductive and vulgar music." (pp. 9-11)
Mrs. Annie
Besant wrote on this subject:
"There
is pretended monogamy in the West, but there is real polygamy without
responsibility. The mistress is cast off when the man is weary of her and she
sinks gradually to be the woman of the street: for the first lover has no
responsibility for her future: and she is hundred times worse off than a
sheltered wife and the mother in the polygamous home. When we see thousands of
miserable women, who crowd the streets of Western towns during the night, we
must surely feel that it does not lie in Western mouths to reproach Islam for
its polygamy. It is better for a woman, happier for a woman, more respectable
for a woman to live in Islamic polygamy united to one man only with the
legitimate child in her arms and surrounded with respect, than to be seduced,
cast out in the streets perhaps with an illegitimate child, outside the pale of
law, un-sheltered and uncared for, to become a victim of any passer by, night
after night, rendered incapable of motherhood, despised by all."
George
Bernard Shaw advised the people of Europe to adopt the system of polygamy to
save Europe from inundation of adultery.
Another
Western writer, J. E. McFarlance; writes in his "The Case for Polygamy or
The Case against the System of Monogamous Marriage":
"Whether
the question is considered socially, ethically or religiously, it can be
demonstrated that polygamy is not contrary to the highest standards of
civilization. The suggestion offers a practical remedy for the Western problems
to destitute families; the alternative is continued and increased prostitution,
concubine and distressing spinsterhood."
A Bishop
from Ibadan (Nigeria), Rev. Odotula, in a religious conference held at Toronto,
shed another light on this subject. He said: "The West by prohibiting the
law of (polygamy) act with hypocrisy, as by frequent divorces they have in fact
been practicing this custom."
And that
Bishop is not alone. Even as early as last century the Christian clergy had
realized that Islamic polygamy is infinitely better than the Western monogamy.
Reverend Canon Issac Taylor, LL.D. speaking on 'Mohamedanism' at the Church
congress at Wolverhampton, on 7th October, 1887, said:
"Owing
to polygamy, Muslim countries are free from professional out-casts, a greater
reproach to Christendom than polygamy is to Islam. The strictly regulated
polygamy of Moslem lands is infinitely less degrading to women and less
injurious to man than the promiscuous polygamy which is the curse of Christian
cities, and which is absolutely unknown in Islam." (The Times, London,
Saturday, 8th Oct, 1887).
And
recently, such a personality as Dr. Billy Graham said:
"Christianity
cannot but compromise on the question of polygamy. If present day Christianity
cannot do so, it is to its own detriment. Islam has permitted polygamy as a solution
to social ills, and has allowed a certain degree of latitude to human nature
but only within the strictly defined framework of law. Christian countries make
a great show of Monogamy, but actually they practice polygamy. No one is
unaware of the part mistresses' play in Western society. In this respect Islam
is a fundamentally honest religion, and permits a Muslim to marry a second wife
if he must be strictly forbidden all clandestine amatory associations in order
to safeguard the moral policy of the community." (Quoted in "The
Position, of Woman in Islam", published by the Islamic Foundation,
Karachi).
Does
Polygamy Injure the Feelings of Women?
The third
objection is that polygamy has social disadvantages, and injures the delicate
feelings of women. We have already seen that far from creating social
disadvantages, polygamy cures the social disadvantages, and that it is the
pretended monogamy, which is the root cause of the vast array of the social
abuses in the Western countries. Now, we may briefly explain the subject of the
supposed injury to the delicate feelings of the women. One wonders if the
prevalent permissiveness of the Christian countries does not injure the
delicate feelings of the wives who see their husbands flirting with all types
of 'emancipated' women.
So far as
Islamic societies are concerned, the instances are not uncommon where a wife
herself persuades the husband to marry a second wife. Often, she herself
chooses the bride-to-be. The writings of Westerners do not carry any weight on
this subject, because they do not live in a Muslim society, and whatever they
write is based on mere presumption and imagination. If there is to be any
discussion on this subject, it must be based on the data gathered from Islamic
societies.
According
to the Ittilaat (daily), Tehran, (No. 13114) a man with his three wives
approached the Matrimonial Tribunal to seek their permission to marry a fourth
wife. All three existing wives recommended and approved the intended marriage.
The reporter of Ittilaat approached the mother of the wife-to-be, to
investigate the background of this incident. He learnt that in that village
there were 2000 women compared to 400 males (half of them still below 14 years
of age). The would-be 'Mother-in-law' preferred to give her daughter to a man
already having three wives to the alternative of keeping her unmarried for the
rest of her life.
The same
paper (No. 13075) published the following news:
A young
wife, who did not bear children and, as a result, was very much distressed, approached
the Matrimonial Tribunal and asked them to persuade her husband to take a
second wife. "Do not think, that I do not love my husband, or that there
is no accord between us. On the contrary, because of my deep love to him, I do
not want him to remain without child, due to no fault of his own. I have tried
to persuade him to marry another wife, but he does not agree. Therefore, I
request this Tribunal to intervene. I solemnly pledge to live in harmony and
with co-operation with the second wife."
The same
newspaper (No. 13091) reported another woman as saying:
"Some
years ago, my husband married me so that the two sons of his late brother do
not remain without a guardian. Later we had a child of our own, but he died
after one month only. My husband is younger than me; and I resolved to find for
him a younger wife. Now I have succeeded in getting him married to another
girl."
These are
a few examples to show that polygamy does not injure the feeling of the wives.
Of course, there are instances of discord and disputes in a polygamous
household. But they are neither more nor less than the discords and disputes in
a monogamous household. Will the Western writers suggest to abolish the
institution of 'Marriage' because it creates domestic troubles, disputes and
discords, which sometimes result in divorce?
Polygamy
vs. Family Planning:
This
objection is based on shortsightedness. In Islam, the husband is responsible to
maintain his wife or wives and all his children. It is an obligation, which
must be fulfilled in all circumstances. If a husband follows the tenets of
Islam, he is bound to think twice before entering a new marriage whether he
would be able to meet his financial and other obligations concerning the new
wife and her off-springs. If his financial condition is not strong, he has to
refrain from the new marriage. Therefore, the question of 'economic problems'
does not arise at all.
Thus, in
the words of John Davenport:
"Mohammed,
therefore, did but legalize a practice not only honored but even blessed by God
himself, under the old dispensation, and declared to be lawful and honorable
under the new one; and, consequently, he must be exonerated from the charge of
having sanctioned polygamy, and thereby encouraged licentiousness." (An
Apology for Mohammed and Koran, p. 159)
Before
ending this booklet, I would like to quote here a letter written by an African,
Mr. S.M. Werottere of Karatina (Kenya) which was published in the Sunday Post
(Nairobi) of 19th August, 1973. He writes:
Polygamy
or Prostitution?
In a
survey to find out the cause of the increase of Prostitution and continued
marriage breakages in Nyeri District, I have discovered various reasons. But
one that caught my attention is that women out-number men.
It will be
interesting to note that except in very few families, girls are more than boys
in most cases: 5-3, 4-3, 2-1; 6-2, 4-1 and so on. These figures indicate that women
are, roughly, two thirds of the country's population.
Normally,
it is a boy that approaches a girl when he considers it fit to marry her; a
girl simply waits to be consulted by anyone who may be interested in her.
It is a
common belief, especially in Christian circles, that the system of "one
man, one wife" should be maintained. That would mean that "one
half" of girls would never be married. The Church has remained mute as to
where the half of the girl population should go.
The Church
teaches that the Bible directs a man should have one wife. Yet we know of some
holy men in the Bible that were polygamous. There seems to exist some
contradictions, anyway.
Indeed,
people appreciate present Government efforts to control human population by
introducing Family Planning services; they commend some religious institutions,
for example Muhammedans, who allow polygamy to their followers.
Through
experience, we now know that although the system of "one man, one
wife" is aimed at having peaceful families, a good many families in this
category have not justified the situation. Some have even divorced or are
separated.
We cannot
deny that "one half of the girls" (or even more) are without
husbands. We have not been able to direct them on how to face life especially
as we are already aware that life is too brutal to them. Particularly when the
majority of young girls lack skills to enable them earn a living.
The Church
priests, the peasants, the economists, the administrators and others quietly
admit that the unmarried women should struggle to survive even if it is by
prostitution, perhaps (?). 'It is time,' one man told me, 'that the Christian
churches examined the present state of affairs and relax the "one man, one
wife" rule to help save the situation now facing the world.'
'And one
Christian woman told me: won't mind being a second wife of a man. Life becomes
hopeless when a woman doesn't have a man's protection. It's better than
remaining unmarried.'
Said a
known prostitute: 'When I got my baby boy and took five years without getting
married, day to day problems pushed me towards prostitution. I have no choice;
I can be second or third wife if consulted. Life has been very insecure.
One
Christian minister told me that although he agreed that polygamy would reduce
prostitution to a certain degree, he does not believe that it would serve the
situation fully. He maintains further that with family planning, the problem
would be saved in future. He had no answer as to what would be done to the
problem at present.
In general,
the majority of the people have talked to married or not, want the Church to
reconsider Its stand so that people can be free to choose between polygamy and
monogamy, depending on one's wealth. (Sunday Post, Nairobi)
And with
this quotation, I close this booklet, hoping that the readers will fully
appreciate the benefits of the Islamic permission of polygamy. Why is a man, allowed to have more than one wife
in Islam?
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